Gentlemen. This is what rape culture is like:
Imagine you have a Rolex watch. Nice fancy Rolex, you bought it because you like the way it looks and you wanted to treat yourself. And then you get beaten and mugged and your Rolex is stolen. So you go to the police. Only, instead of investigating the crime, the police want to know why you were wearing a Rolex instead of a regular watch. Have you ever given a Rolex to anyone else? Is it possible you wanted to be mugged? Why didn’t you wear long sleeves to cover up the Rolex if you didn’t want to be mugged?
And then after that, everywhere you go, there are constant jokes about stealing your Rolex. People you don’t even know whistle at your Rolex and make jokes about cutting your hand off to get it. The media doesn’t help either; it portrays people who wear Rolexes as flamboyant assholes who secretly just want someone to come along and take that Rolex off their hands. When damn, all you wanted was to wear a nice watch without getting harassed for it. When you complain that you are starting to feel unsafe, people laugh you off and say that you are too uptight. Never mind you got violently attacked for the crime of wearing a friggin time piece.
Imagining all that? It sucks, doesn’t it.
Now imagine you could never take the Rolex off.
[Chart from White & Kowalsky article in Psychology of Women Quarterly, 1994, showing that most women who kill their spouses do so out of self-defense and receive a 15-20 year sentence, whereas most men who kill their spouse do so for reasons of sexual jealousy and receive a 2-6 year sentence. Text above chart reads “Stereotype of gender differences in aggression…sustains male power.”]
[Context: Professor of Sociology and Women’s Studies Gail Dines discussing how the modern Western construction of femininity derives from sexist industry exploitation that promotes the hyper-sexualization of women and girls. She dubs this current archetypal standard of femininity as ‘The Stepford Slut’].